Every couple will hit rough patches in their relationship. It is inevitable. After all, we're all human, with our own thoughts, wants, needs and desires. There are lots of things that can contribute to stress in a relationship. Things like kids, money, jobs, houses, in-laws and the list goes on. Disagreements and arguments don't necessarily mark the end of a relationship. As long as you can "fight fair", disagreements can be healthy and motivating. But......many couples don't fight fair. Many keep past hurts stored up and available to further fuel disagreements, rather than focusing on the issue at hand. This is where problems begin......
Counseling can help couples learn how to disagree effectively, because, let's face it......you're going to disagree at times. However, having effective communication skills can be the key to having a healthy disagreement that can motivate a relationship to change for the better. Lack of communication skills can lead to disagreements that can break the relationship further. Together we can get to the root of the problems. My office is a safe environment to explore the issues that are preventing you from having the healthy relationship you want with your partner, and learn skills to improve your connection to each other.
I love to work with couples who are married, getting ready to get married, or who aren't even thinking in that direction. I love teaching couples ways to make their relationships flourish and watching the bond between couples increase. Through the process of counseling couples have the potential to understand each other better, have the communication that can lead to positive changes in the relationship, and be able to better communicate their needs and wants, while their partner can effectively listen and respond. I love to watch couples leave the past behind, focus on each other, and begin to live for their future together. If you and your partner feel like you've hit a brick wall and don't know how to get over it, or are tired of having the same issues cause stress and unhappiness, or are planning a marriage and want to learn skills before the "I do's", counseling may be the right step for you.